It’s difficult, near impossible to say I’ve had a “bad day” let alone a “bad week” and be correct.
Perhaps a bad “moment” - although one could attempt to reframe it as “challenging” or “intense” period. It feels different under the skin to do so.
What if life was viewed as a series of ratios rather than binary statements?
"This happened, I didn’t like it, but it only happened for 30 seconds and the rest of the 5 minutes was pleasant."
Or “I hurt my ankle, that’s only one joint of my body, I can still figure out ways to move”
Think of traffic, which nobody particularly enjoys (I don’t see any theme parks offering this ride). If there was a longer route, which took 25% more time but you drove through nature on a non stop winding road, would you take it? More time, but the ratio of enjoyment would be higher.
If you look at your entire day as a series of endless events rolling into one another, does it make sense to hold onto any event more than the other if you’re not experiencing it right now?
Of course day dreaming, remembering pleasant memories or funny stories can make a boring moment more interesting, and these could even help to reframe your current situation (“Bus is late, I remember when the bus waited for me because I was late, maybe that’s what happened at the previous stop”).
Back to ratios, as a reflective tool you also realise that most of life is largely mundane and that’s normal ("after enlightenment comes the laundry"). So you could play with your own ratio levers making a conscious decision on what to highlight and what to diminish. Is this possible in the moment? Why not try.
You could tally up a single moment, hour, day or even year. You could decide to adjust the ratios of your experiences in a delusional manner just for fun (I’m a skin suit packed with organs controlling the universe and sending energetic healing to everyone I make eye contact with), frame them adjacent to the long term (I’m doing these split squats so I can run faster) or the very short term (I’m on a bus, its wobbly, hot and loud, but I’m beating the cars RN suckaaaas). The framework is up to you, good, bad, challenging, intense, creative and weird.
I hope you have a day, week and life.
Human Love,